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people pleasing is not a syndrome.

Time to call myself out on my own bullshit.

In a previous post, I diagnosed my people-pleasing tendencies as a syndrome.

No wonder why I’ve had issues with it for so long. I’ve been trying to “cure” the syndrome when it wasn’t one to begin with.

It’s one of the Guardian’s ways of protecting me from the Darkness.

The more I try to rid myself of people pleasing, the more the Guardian makes me do it. He may not have my best interests in mind, but he doesn’t know any better. He’s just been doing what’s worked in the past. And if I threaten that protection mechanism, he’s going to fight to keep it in place.

People pleasing has downsides AND upsides. Maybe I can learn to mitigate the former and bolster the latter.

Instead of approaching people-pleasing as a syndrome that needs to be eliminated, maybe I ought to approach it as a mechanism that needs to be understood.