self-mastery journal

the beliefs you own, end up owning you.

In Fight Club, Tyler Durden says, “The things you own, end up owning you.”

The same applies to your character. The beliefs you own, end up owning you.

Most of us carry our beliefs around like badges of honor, because that’s one way we define ourselves. While that’s fine and dandy for social games, taking our beliefs too seriously can destroy our happiness.

Beliefs are like clothing. There’s nothing wrong with wearing clothes. They keep us warm against the winds of uncertainty. But eventually, they wear out. And the more we cling to tattered clothing, the more we suffer.

The point when our clothes tatter is when cognitive dissonance occurs. We all know the symptoms: offended, defensive, angry, upset, scared. We don’t want to let go of our beliefs because doing so would be psychological death.┬áBut part of living is learning to die.

If you want to be happier, wear your garments loosely. Be willing to change outfits. And learn to be okay with the buffeting wind, because in the end, that’s all there is. Uncertainty is immortal; our beliefs are not.