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authenticity is simple.

It’s okay to be you. But how do you know what’s authentically you?

Try on this metric:

Authenticity is simple. Inauthenticity has layers.

If you have little to no “why” for doing what you do, then it’s authentically you.

Examples:

  • just because
  • I feel like it
  • I feel moved to do it
  • I just like it

If you have to explain to yourself or others why you do what you do, then it’s not authentically you.

Examples:

  • because God/Mom/Dad/friend/etc said so
  • because I know it’s good for me
  • because helping others is important
  • because it’s fair
  • because I need to be loved
  • because I don’t want to be abandoned
  • because I want to make an impact
  • because I want to be remembered
  • because science is more helpful to society than art
  • because society sucks
  • because there’s no self to do it
  • because the self is an illusion
  • because I am everything, I should treat everything with respect
  • because then I will become famous
  • because I’m using this to avoid _____
  • because it’s fun
  • because I am afraid of what would happen if I stopped
  • because I want it all

ThereĀ are usually hidden reasons for inauthentic actions that underlie the surface-level reasons.

Examples:

  • “because I know it’s good for me” as a cover up for “because I’m using this to avoid ______”
  • “because society sucks” as a cover up for “because I’m using this to avoid_____”
  • “because it’s fun” as a cover up for “because I’m using this to avoid_____”
  • “because I am everything” as a cover up for “because my spiritual teacher said so”
  • “because I want to make an impact” as a cover up for “because I want to be remembered”
  • “because I know it’s good for me” as a cover up for “because Dad said so”
  • “because it’s fair” as a cover up for “because I want it all”
  • “because helping others is important” as a cover up for “because I need to be loved”

Inauthenticity is complicated due to layers of “why.” Authenticity is simple because it doesn’t need a “why.”